i don't want to support other people's lives any more
i release them to their own lives
they don't need me
they have the capacity to handle their own suffering
I don't have to help. i don't have to help. i don't have to help.
I am not as desirable. I don't have to fend off men. Most importantly, I don't have to engage in subservient, defensive, "obsequious to diffuse the threat" interactions with men. I do not have to defer to their desires.